Sadness

Ravens circling
above the tree tops
death in her eyes

I do not have any photo that would mirror the images my little Haiku-inspired poem conveys so I picked a photo that conveys similar feelings which are the feelings of sadness I felt when writing the poem.

You know, the poem made me think.

Some days are not happy days.

Some days are sombre.

For obvious reasons we don’t like them but they are inevitably part of our lives.

How to accept them?

How to deal with them?

There are so many books and websites offering pieces of advice on how to be happier and where to find happiness.

You don’t need to be sad when you can be happy… or do you?

I’ve arrived at the conclusion that it is much more important to live in a balance with oneself than to be happy. That days filled with smile and fun and warm feelings are a gift but not necessity. That happiness can mean different things to different people. That you can feel balance even if you are sad.

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18 Comments

  1. Wise advice indeed! Still, I hope you’ll find that spot of happiness soon. Also, nice choice of photo for this post. Studies show that social media makes people feel depressed so take a walk outside and offline with your camera. I find that always helps unless it’s a thunderstorm!

    1. Sarah, thank you for your kind words and encouragement. I’m pleased you like the choice of the photo, it was the first image that came to my mind when I was thinking about this post. And I agree with you, getting out of the walls and taking a peaceful walk with a camera instead of browsing social media may be a great help in changing the mood. Sometimes even when it’s a thunderstorm! 🙂

  2. I think we need a balance of emotions too. If we acted happy all the time we wouldn’t be true to ourselves, because sadness does come around now and again. Denying any of our feelings is like denying a part of ourselves. I also think feeling the ‘bad’ emotions help us appreciate the ‘good’ emotions. That said…I hope the rest of your day is more happy than sad. 🙂

    1. Michelle, thank you. I love what you say about the denying, I think many troubles we have stem from denying our feelings, our thoughts, our beliefs instead of accepting them and working with them. If there are problems, denial is a path to more problems. If we take sadness as something that belongs to our life, it doesn’t mean we want to wallow in it, it means we accept and respect it as it is and are able to stay open and move on.

    1. Robin, thank you. I took the photo last December, processed it in this way and then it seemed good for nothing but when I was thinking about this post, it was the first (and last actually) image I came up with. I’m pleased to hear you find it a good choice!

  3. There is a difference between happiness and joy. I found this explanation online by Psychologies: “…Joy is more consistent and is cultivated internally. It comes when you make peace with who you are, why you are and how you are, whereas happiness tends to be externally triggered and is based on other people, things, places, thoughts and events.”

    Joy is present even in the midst of sadness. For me, joy comes from knowing that God loved me enough to send His Son to pay the penalty for my sins and that, because of that, I’ll spend eternity with Him.

    I hope your sadness is a fleeting thing, my friend.

    1. Linda, thank you for your kind words and sharing your thoughts. Fortunately sadness is a temporary thing, unless it turns into depression, but that’s quite another story. When I’m sad, I find routine to help me, it keeps me on my toes. Perhaps that’s why I like planning and scheduling and deadlines, they don’t let me stay stuck. 🙂

      I was thinking about the definitions you found and have to say that I don’t share that view entirely though it may be influenced by the fact that English is not my mother tongue. I would rather talk about inner and outer joy/happiness. And then there is the difference when you feel sad yourself and when you feel sad for somebody else because of their misfortune… But I understand what you say about your conviction and the joy it brings, it’s a mighty thing.

  4. We do appreciate the sunlight more when we’ve weathered the storm. I read a good book on happiness once – it means so many different things and is relative to how people interpret the feeling. To carry a burden and to feel the weight of it – happiness!

    1. Barb, thank you for sharing your view. I heartily agree, there are so many interpretations of what happiness actually is and how to achieve it, we might be surprised or even shocked by knowing all the varieties… Being happy may not even mean a good thing if your happiness meant to hurt someone else.

  5. So sorry to read that you are going through a bad time. But, I love the fact that you are able to express it through poetry and a perfect image. This tends to happen to me during the dark seasons – I write and walk

    this cold winter day
    the twisted old apple tree
    promises blossoms

  6. Balance is always such a key word, Petra, isn’t it! There are always two sides to the coin and a sword is always double-edged. And all of that! I like how you are viewing this. You write your thoughts so well!

  7. It seems that here in the States being happy is a state of mind, and if you’re not happy – well, too bad.

    I simply can’t feel happy all the time. It would feel dishonest, because there are moments and times that just aren’t happy. Sadness is a part of life, and acknowledging the sadness makes me whole. It’s like yin and yang, right? We need both parts in our life, and we can only appreciate true happiness when we went through times of sadness.

    1. Carola, thank you for sharing your experience, I feel it the same way.

      It seems that in this regard the American mentality differs from the European mentality but I would really like to know how much. I read quite a few times how important it is in the States to “practise” being happy because it’s how one should feel but I could never quite believe it… Nobody can feel happy all the time.

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